Editor’s Note: This story comes from a very compassionate woman who wrote to us on our Facebook page. English is not her first language, so there were some minor edits to bridge the translation. This story speaks to the struggles many parents have when their children begin talking about past lives, especially in the context of violent past lives.
I am going to explain my fear for the first time [publicly]. This [reincarnation] is a topic I have always believed in. Actually my story is perhaps a shocking story, because I have two boys 13 to 14-years-old already. Both have Asperger Syndrome and are very intelligent, but life with them has been extremely difficult – mostly because they refuse to let go what seems to be the memories of their past lives.
Since they were kids I had plenty of difficult moments at school with them, because of their obsession in drawing very large, complex and bloody war scenarios – mostly of what seemed like WWI and WWII. I still have a lot of those drawings. The younger one, since he was four of 5-years-old, even refused to wear anything that is not a military camouflage outfit. When he started talking, after many many therapies, he only talked about slaughtering, cutting throats, different kinds of knifes and so on…imagine our situation! We even had to go through counseling with the children and family dept. My youngest constantly talks about different ways to protect himself, his loved ones and his country.
The oldest one was not so severe, but he has been in a total controversy with his father since he was 3-years-old. His father says he has always felt a strange love/hate feeling for the boy. Now that he [the son] is a teenager, he has expressed, on countless occasions, that he knows his father murdered him during a military conflict by blowing his head with a gun while he was defenseless. He says he can see clearly the man’s eyes and feel the blow, and it is his father’s eyes.”
My son says he has had dreams about it countless times since he was a boy and I believe him. Imagine my situation, because I believe in reincarnation and past lives and I know what happens is true, but everyone thinks I am the wacko!
I just wish these experiences they still remember and “cherish so much,” just vanish. At the same time, I feel sad for my sons, because of the memories they have. I just hope things goes all right for their future and they learn to be lovable and calm people.
Some time I anguish in my self thinking that they might become some kind of murders or implacable warriors, because of what seems to be a big capacity to screen their feelings (for such younger boys), and seeing violent deaths as something so natural.
I cried like crazy when the Columbine incident happened, not for the victims, but because for the boys who did it. How many soldiers who died “killing like crazies” are among us, in our houses today, and still cannot forget what their “duty” was? How many of them are kids with some kind of disability and cannot recognize they don’t have to live again that way? Is there some hope for us, the parents of these kids? This is a thing not many people talk about. Maybe it’s the not-so-nice face of reincarnation?
you must see a indian guru or a medium to remove the past memorys
Its nt necessary that Indian gurus or something lyk therapies would work ………………dey r kids nw….dnt forget dis. It’l take tym.let dem grow up treat dem normally .slowly try to make dem understand that that was their past now dey r born in a peaceful world where everyone is equal…and that though their father had killed them in their past bt now they are his own blood…nd u both can’t see dem suffering from past life ..try this ..may be it can hlp a little
My 10 yr old son has aspergers and has talked about having 7 lives prior to this one. WW11 comes up constantly and he has a huge obsession with “protection” always showing people ” moves” to protect themselves, making weapons out of anything and everything. He was 4 the first time he said this. Sometimes he won’t talk about it for 6 months or a year and then have some time where he becomes emotional and talks about bits and pieces from lives trying to put them in order. Just thought I would share as I never know what to think about it, but this story is so exactly like him!
Just know that God brings us back together with people from our past so we can work through our problems together. It is a very trying, difficult thing we have to do as souls. But in the end, learning to love and accept one another unconditionally is a part of our spiritual essence. I just said goodbye to my Mother. In the 1700’s she was a Spanish landowner in New Mexico. I was from a Pueblo tribe and worked for room and board serving her and her family. It was forced servitude. I hated her. In this lifetime I carried those same feelings with me. After 54 years of being her daughter and working out all of those feelings, I learned to love and cherish the very essence of her soul. She had also changed and had learned to love and accept others who don’t share the same beliefs as she does. I looked over her the final years of her life. Yes, I served and waited on her for her every need and want. I did it for love this time and she was eternally grateful. In the end of all this mess called “life”, love is what truly matters in the end. It carries us forward in peace. Life here is so hard, but every second of it has meaning. Take care of yourself. Thanks for sharing your story.
I will first say that there is no creator god. We will never know the mystery of how we are here, so there is no point in speculating about our origin.
There is in this world laws of karma that is part of laws of nature just as there is laws of biology, laws of attraction (physics), and etc.
Everything in this infinite space is impermanent. Universes born and die. Heaven and hell realm born and die. Everything is based on energy which its nature is impermanent. Anything built on impermanent entity will be impermanent. Because of impermanence, all feelings are subject to suffering. Sensed objects give one feeling of pleasantness or unpleasantness or neutral. With feeling, there is desire. With desire there is wanting to acquire or to avoid. With wanting and having attained, one is subject to suffering because that which has been acquired is impermanent. Feelings are generated from contact with objects. There is self-essence in feeling. There is no self-essence in perception, in consciousness, or in volition. It is all aggregates that give the apparent sense of “self”. With the delusion of self, there arise craving. With craving, there is rebirth.
Rebirth is caused by craving. As long as there is craving, there is rebirth. Craving of wanting and of avoiding. It is subconscious as well. Try not to think for just 5 minutes. Can you do that? No. As soon as you try to quiet your mind, there is a volcano of thoughts arising. These arising thoughts are because there is desire in you. Desire for existence. Desire for sensual objects. Desire for “self”.
Buddha was enlightened, and exhausted the craving energy. He will never be reborn again. To cease rebirth, one needs to be on the path of enlightenment.
You can either talk to Dr Tucker from University of Virigina. He is the head of psychiatry department. He and his predecessor have studied rebirth (mistakenly also called reincarnation) of 3000 children with thorough investigation. You can google Dr Jim Tucker and Ian Stevenson (deceased).
Or you can contact Dr Brian Weiss, a Yale graduated psychiatrist and was once the chairman of psychiatry of Sinai Medical Center in Miami. He has helped patients with nightmares to recover. The reason for the nightmares is because these patients experienced trauma in their past lives.
Gosh, I wish I would have had that inftmraoion earlier!
Saying “no” … the age old question The more I practice the better I get (at saying no!). Instead of saying no for extracurricular activities I try to give my children a choice, such as: You can only participate in 2 things, which would you prefer to do? However, I will admit that sometimes I waiver – especially if it is an activities that is a 1-3 time commitment. I am totally stealing Angela’s comment on this post that maybe “balance looks more like chaos!”
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I know exactly what you mean – my son – same way. Also Asperger…also the drawings and delayed language…also began to talk about war…death…murder. He remembers who he was. He also says his step father killed him in one of his past lives. Not his very last one as he was killed quite recently… He also keeps reincarnating to be a military leader. I am worried for his future.
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I’ve had nothing but dumb luck while I’ve been writing my WIP, a YA set in 1895 at a women’s college. Everytime I write something, meaning to research it later, it seems that my instincts were correct all along. I gave my heroine a job at Wanamaker’s in Philadelphia, without knowing whether or not women worked as salesclerks (they didn’t at Tiffany’s). I also chose the right location for them to live in Philadelphia before I did my research as well.